•Dress like you want to be respected. No one respects someone who dresses like a prostitute.
You may think that dressing like they gives you power because it makes men look at you, but dressing like that causes men to treat you with disrespect.
If a man tries to awaken your sexuality before you belong to him he does not respect you!
Look at the women who are powerful and dignified and who people fully respect. The queen. A princess. Opera. How do they dress? And how go people respond to them?
•It will feel really important in high school to be popular. Like being a celebrity. But I look at all of my classmates who were popular back then and ten years later they have not really made anything of themselves! Except the ones who have changed their focus from popularity. The athletes hurt their knees and are now too old to play. They wish they could have been young and athletic forever. They miss being in high school and still drink and party like they have no responsibilities. They are alcoholics now who are still dressing to have "power" over men, but it never gets them the respect they so desire.
It's the serious dorks and nerds that really make it in life! College really is for nerds. Anyone who specializes in a field becomes a "nerd" but that is just a derogatory term for "smart person" that dumb people use to make themselves feel better about themselves. In fact, now most of my closest friends are people who were "nerds" in high school! No one really thinks about that stuff when they are out of high school... Well, except for the ones who were really popular and want to go back to high school.
•When you disrespect someone, sit and feel what it does to your insides. Don't ignore or cover up those feelings. It makes you feel dirty and ugly inside. Then go and apologize. Ask forgiveness from God, then ask forgiveness from that person. Even if you don't like them. They can be disrespectful to you or rude, but that is not your problem and they are only hurting themselves and feeling ugly inside. You are responsible for YOU, and no one else!
•It may feel like the most important thing in the world to not be alone in life, but there are much worse things. Many people choose to marry (or just live with) men who do not respect them. That is an incredibly painful life. There is nothing quite so painful as being partnered with someone who does not value you. You want to be with someone who sees you as a strong, capable, dignified, respectable, intelligent, emotional (but not irrational), internally beautiful woman! It only takes a few years for your young outer beauty to start to fade, so do not spend too much time worrying about that. Your beauty is fun, but it does not last and does not make a marriage last! But if you marry someone who knows your inner beauty, they will always see you as beautiful, even when you're old and wrinkly. Even if you get in an accident that disfigured your face, or you gain a lot of weight from having kids. Internal beauty does not fade, but usually just gets more beautiful.
It's the hard work and companionship, and deep dependence on God that make marriage not only last, but make it enjoyable. Bad marriages exist for years too, and that's no better than divorce. Work hard for your marriage if you do get married, but its ok to not get married too! One is not better than the other. In face singleness allows for a lot of freedom! You can travel without even having to consider correlating schedules with your mate and kids!
But for me, having you is one of the most incredible things in the world. I wouldn't trade all of the freedom in the world for my family.
I love you and I want the best for you,
Love, your Mom
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